For Parents

What will my child get out of Greek life that they would not get out of any other college organization?GreekLife15

A. Joining a fraternity or sorority can help make the transition through college easier. The Greek Life experience is truly multifaceted and offers your student numerous opportunities to develop life-long friends, be involved with community service, be encouraged to achieve academic excellence, and develop leadership skills.

How will joining a chapter now benefit my student after college?

A.  Greeks have national networks for members that can be used to secure jobs and advance their careers. Wherever a member ends up after college, chances are that he/she will be able to find other members of the same fraternity/sorority. There are also opportunities to stay involved in Graduate/Alumni chapters.

Will my student’s academics be compromised if they join a Greek chapter?

A. Chapter membership can assist in that transition by offering scholarship programs that may include study partners, mandatory study hours, and time management and study skills workshops. Your student can also access the network of chapter members who already know how to use campus resources like the library, tutoring center, computer labs, and academic advisors. 

Aren’t fraternities and sororities just like the ones in the movies and TV?

A. Unfortunately, individuals without complete information often define Greek life by the images they have seen on television and in the movies. It is important to know that “social” events include educational programs/workshops, community service events, intramural sports, Parent’s Days, Homecoming, and Greek Week in addition to parties and mixers. Today’s Greek communities have adopted stringent approaches to socializing in order to create a safer, more beneficial environment for members.

How much time does becoming Greek take up?

A. The time commitment for membership varies from chapter to chapter. As a new member, your student will have regular meetings to teach them about the history and traditions of the organizations and develop friendships with other new members and active members. As active members your student will attend chapter meetings weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly as well as other mandatory events (philanthropies, service, initiation) throughout the year. The majority of ECU Greek students attends class full-time, work, and are active in their chapter.

Doesn’t membership cost a lot of money?

A. Greek organizations are quite affordable. Fees go to services that will positively impact your student. Each chapter is self-supported through dues charged to all members. Please make sure your son or daughter understands the financial commitment before joining an organization. 

What about pledging or hazing?

A. All new fraternity and sorority members experience a period of orientation. During this time, your student and other new members will participate in meetings to learn about the University and the fraternity/sorority history.  They will also attend leadership retreats, community service projects, and activities designed to build friendships among new members and initiated members. ALL FRATERNITY AND SORORITY POLICIES STRICTLY FORBID HAZING. ECU also takes a zero tolerance stance on hazing and enforces its policies rigorously. If you believe your child is being hazed, please contact

Who actually is in charge of the organization, and is there outside support?

A. Students elected to officer positions manage the day-to-day operations of the organization. These officers are assisted by members serving on committees, so everyone is involved in and exposed to leadership positions. Alumni act as advisers, along with other volunteers/faculty/staff,  and some chapters have alumni advisory boards that work with its members. Each group is governed by  inter/national headquarters, which established their chapter’s regulations, and offers advice and direction through professional staff and volunteers.

What is my role as a parent?

A. Take the time to find out more about the Greek community at ECU. Ask questions about what the organizations will offer your child and allow them to make the best decision for themselves. Once your child chooses to join a chapter, there will be opportunities for Parent’s Weekend activities, visiting chapter events, and possibly joining the chapter’s Parents’ Club. Take the time to talk to your child about Greek life and their chapter.

Do you have any helpful hints for me as a parent?

A. The following is a list of suggestions that may help ease your student's transition to both the University and the Greek community.
• Be happy and supportive with your son's or daughter's choice of fraternity or sorority.
• Encourage your son or daughter to attend programs sponsored by Greek Life Office and the Office of Student Activities.
• Know the name and contact information of the chapter president, new member educator/intake chair, and chapter advisor.
• Ask for details about the financial aspect of membership. If you are paying, you have the right to know. Many one time dues are paid during the first year, so expect the first year to be the most expensive.
• Talk with your son or daughter. Stay in touch with phone calls, emails, and care packages.
• Attend Parents' Weekend as well as special events sponsored by the chapter.
• Expect to see numerous new t-shirts, photos and Greek paraphernalia.
• Encourage your son or daughter to be a part of the University community and to take advantage of its many resources.